Raider

I've played through TSL many times with TSLRCM 1.8.5 + Handmaiden4Females and they are compatible but there is a small problem i find i get when installing other mods that change the Handmaiden.dlg and the globalcat.rar files from the Handmaiden4Females mod, so i always save my game before speaking to the Handmaiden, if i don't get the cutscene with Atris talking to the Handmaidensisters i know i hav'nt recruited the Handmaiden, i then exit the game fully and extract these 2 files from the Handmaiden4Females folder into the override folder, overwriting if asked (Handmaiden.dlg + globalcat.rar) then i load my save game and chat to the Handmaiden choosing the correct dialog, run to the Ebon Hawk and watch the cutscene with Atris, i now have the Handmaiden. Not sure if this is the right way to go about solving this but it works for me.

After you spar with Visas it opens up more dialogue with Kreia later in the game and I think you need high awareness to trigger the coversation (no other options came up only the awareness check). I really can't say what the convo is about because I would'nt want to spoil it for everyone I have'nt triggered a 2nd sparring session with Visas, so not sure if that's a possibility.